善導會 2024-2025年報

專題故事ﾠ FEATURE STORY 服務使用者︰晴天 偷取你們的明白 、 肯定及關心 「 晴天 」 是兩個妹妹的大家姐 ， 亦是家中唯一 未婚的孩子 ， 她一直認為照顧父母的責任落 在自己頭上是自然不過的事 。 對於父母的管 教一一順從 ， 不敢或不想違背父母的意思 。 同 時 ， 由於兩位妹妹的學業表現比自己更出色 ， 她常覺得自己比不上她們 ， 認為自己很無用 ， 唯一能做到的就是在家中扮演好 「 乖乖女 」 的 角色 。 她默默承受照顧父母的壓力和負面情 緒 ， 長期忽略自己的需要 ， 日積月累 ， 情緒壓 力愈來愈大 ， 最終陷入自我否定的惡性循環 。 她知道偷竊不對 ， 但每次經過超市貨架 ， 內心 的空虛與壓力驅使她伸手 。 偷竊的緊張與刺 激帶來 「 前所未有的滿足感 」， 短暫填補了她 的空洞 。 然而 ， 事後的內疚如潮水湧來 ， 她會 在公園 「 哭到收不到聲 」， 坦言 ：「 我愛上了這 種感覺 ， 開始控制不到自己 。」 被捕後 ， 她感 到無地自容 ， 認為自己 「 不配做別人的女兒 ， 不配有朋友 」， 甚至質疑生存價值 。 找回屬於自己的晴天 晴天透過外展服務第一次與善導會的法院社 工接觸 。 社工除了提供個案輔導工作 ， 幫助晴 天小姐處理刑事司法程序 ， 還以不批判的聆 聽她的經歷和與家人的關係 。 社工發現晴天 的盜竊是一種 「 成癮行為 」， 源於壓抑的情緒 和對家人肯定的渴望 。 透過一對一輔導 ， 社工 幫助晴天辨識壓力 ， 並尋找替代方式取代盜 竊帶來的短暫滿足感 。 社工還幫助安排晴天與家人溝通 ， 幫助父母 和妹妹了解她的壓力 。 起初 ， 晴天害怕家人知 道盜竊事件 ， 擔心被 「 離棄 」。 然而 ， 家人給予 了意外的支持 ：「 晴天做得很好 ， 為何要把所 有責任負在身上 ？」 妹妹也意識到晴天每天回 家陪伴的可貴 。 這份肯定讓晴天感到震撼 ， 她 開始學會坦誠表達需要 ， 與家人的關係變得 更開放 。「 現在我可以跟爸媽說我想什麼 ， 感 覺很輕鬆 ，」 她笑著說 ， 眼中閃爍自信 。 Service User: Miss Sunny The Silent Struggles of Miss Sunny As the eldest sister and still unmarried, Miss Sunny felt it was her duty to care for her parents. She complied with all their expectations, never daring to defy them. With her two younger sisters excelling academically, she saw herself as inferior and believed her only value was being the “perfect, obedient daughter.” Quietly enduring the burden of caregiving, she neglected her own needs, leading to overwhelming emotional pressure and a cycle of self-doubt. Miss Sunny knew stealing was wrong, but the emptiness and stress inside her compelled her to act whenever she passed supermarket shelves. The thrill gave her a fleeting sense of satisfaction, briefly filling the void. Yet, the guilt that followed was unbearable. She often cried uncontrollably in the park, admitting, “I became addicted to the feeling and couldn’t stop myself.” When she was caught, Miss Sunny was consumed by shame. She believed she was unworthy of being a daughter, unworthy of friends, and began questioning her right to exist, trapped in a spiral of guilt and despair. Finding Her Place in the Sun Miss Sunny connected with SideBySide’s court social workers through outreach services. Social worker not only offered comprehensive counselling services and guided her through the pressures of the legal process but also lent his non-judgmental ear to listen to her experiences and her relationship with her family. Social worker viewed her shoplifting as an “addictive behaviour” rooted in pent-up emotions and a yearning for family approval. Through one-on-one counselling, he helped her pinpoint her stress and find healthier outlets, moving away from the temporary high of stealing. Social worker also bridged the gap between Miss Sunny and her family, helping her parents and sisters understand her burdens. Fearing they would “turn their backs on her,” she was stunned by their support: “Sunny, you’ve done so much; why carry it all alone?” Her sisters valued her constant presence at home. This encouragement was a game-changer, empowering her to speak her mind and forging a closer family bond. “Now I can tell my parents how I feel, and it’s like a weight off my shoulders,” she said, her eyes shining with newfound confidence. 48 | 善導會 SideBySide | | 被捕及候審支援服務 | SUPPORT SERVICES FOR ARRESTEES AND ACCUSED PERSONS |